Koulla Kakoulli

Koulla Kakoulli (Greek: Κούλα Κακουλλή) was a British musician, dominatrix and bodybuilder. Born in Forest Hill in London, she died in Brighton in August 2018.[1]

As a musician, she sang, played keyboards and guitar. She was a backing musician for The Only Ones,[2][3] and fronted her own band Lonesome No More.[4][5] Her sister Zena Kakoulli was married to Peter Perrett, who managed both bands.[6] Her brother Harry Kakoulli later became the bassist of the band Squeeze.[7]

As a bodybuilder, she competed in the IBFA Ms. Universe Over 50 division,[8] taking third place in the 2018 championships, and fourth place in the 2017 championship.[9][10]

As a dominatrix, she used the name Mistress Dometria,[11] and operated the Brighton Dungeon, a BDSM venue. Her work was the subject of The Boss Lady, a feature-length documentary by Stephanie De Palma.[12]

In her private life, she was a mother of five, and had four grandchildren. At the time of her death, she was mourning the death of the father of three of her children.[13]

She was found dead in the Brighton Dungeon on 3 August 2018, at the age of 56. Although traces of multiple drugs were found in her system, an inquest reached an open verdict.[1] At the inquest into her death, the coroner described her thus: "Of the many people i’ve met, Koulla was one of the most amazing. Leading her life as she wanted to. Extraordinarily well organised with a huge number of people who loved her."[14]